The power of asking HOW instead of WHY

Personal development work can be a rollercoaster sometimes. How is that?

One day you rock, and your intention and visualization work is really starting to gain some results. The next day you’re right back on square one again, and you have to start all over again.

Today we are going to talk about two important questions that can make all the difference.  The questions are the WHY and the HOW. What do I mean by that, you ask. We’ll dive right into that.

Why do we always ask ourselves WHY?

When we journal, we usually go through our day, plan for the future and complain about stuff that we don’t want anyone else to read. For me, it’s usually the complaining part that helps me to make progress, as weird as that might sound. It’s like if stuff is suddenly revealed.

“WHY does it have to be like this?” “WHY did that person say that?” When you start to write down the answers that come to mind, fantastic things start to happen.

The WHY must be there from time to time. But when you have cleared out the issues of the WHY, you have to start asking the bigger question. The question of the HOW.

Make a list of the “WHYs” in your life

Start making a list of as many whys you can possibly think of. You can use this method described in one of my previous blog posts. It can be both stuff that you like and dislike about your current situation. Sometimes it can be really beneficial for you if you brainstorm why you’re actually content with the things you have in you life as well. Chances are that you will discover things and situations in your life that are comfortable but don’t necessarily help you grow as much as the scary, uncomfortable things.

Mindset shift

When you have come to the point in your life where you want to change something, you have to be in the WHY mindset for a while to help you figure out what’s wrong with the current situation. The problem is that when you’re in the mindset of “why” it’s more of a lack mentality . See it like this: just the mere thought of wanting something else indicates that you aren’t content with your current situation. It’s a good thing because you want to make a difference in your life, but you don’t want to be there forever. When you shift your mindset to a more “doing” mindset than that of the “having”, the power of HOW kicks in. You’re not as clingy anymore, and you’re ready to take som action for yourself.

HOW instead of WHY

When you’ve weeded out the WHYs, it’s time to start the real work. Dedicate some time every day to journal, and practice asking yourself HOW. You can see that the question “How do I become a better artist” for example is more powerful than “Why am I not a better artist?”

Ideas sprout from the question HOW

Start to practice asking yourself the question HOW every time you come across a problem in your life, and you will be empowered not only to solve the problem at hand, but also start to get new, fresh ideas from the HOW.

Maybe you want to improve your drawing skills. Maybe you’re struggling with a character in your novel. It doesn’t matter; if you start to apply the HOW in different areas in your life, you are going to see major improvements in those areas. This simple yet powerful method has helped me so many times. Make it as big or as small as you want, but make it yours.

To get you started, I encourage you to watch this insanely inspirational interview with Patrick Grove.

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