Are you struggling to get results in different areas of you life, only to see that you don’t get the results you want? I was too, before I read the stunning book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. But before we get into this book, I want to share with you what I’ve found to be really effective in addition to those 7 habits:
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Be an early bird
The most useful habit that I’ve discovered is that you get up at a reasonable time in the morning. You’ve surely heard the saying “snoozers are losers” and in some aspects I’ve found that to be true. You get SO much done during those quiet morning hours, and if you are into personal development stuff like me, you will be amazed at how much self improvement you can get out of those early mornings. I’ve written a blog post about the importance of a morning ritual.
Cleanse old habits out of your system
Picture yourself as a glass of water. If the glass is filled with dirty water, there can be no room for any fresh water to come in there. And even if there is some room left, it will immediately be infested with the dirty water and start to merge with it and become it as well.
If you’re serious about starting a new habit, dig really deep into your beliefs to research which ones you hold that aren’t neccessarily true. There might be limiting beliefs that have hurt you since childhood. If you hold them as true, any fresh thought that might enter your system gets infested by the limiting belief. If you dig into this you can also discover if you use habits and routines that aren’t neccessarily so good for you.
Your money beliefs
Many people struggle with their money beliefs and therefore they don’t see any cashflow in their lives. (I’ve written an article about how you can start to let some cashflow into your life, check that out if you like.)
If you hold the belief that money is hard to get, you will never get any serious amounts of money. Your subconscious will always see to it that you meet your own belief. So the first thing you need to do in this case is to start a serious habit with the goal to cleanse all of your limiting money beliefs out of your system. This can take months. Be patient. The more you work on this the faster you will discover your result.
A good habit to start with if you want to clear your mind is the technique that I call The Brain Dump Meditation Technique. You meditate with pen and paper, and write down everything that your mind comes up with. If you set the intention that you want to discover your limiting beliefs, you can train your brain to come up with what’s in there 🙂
This is a crucial step. In order for habits to work, they need to be built over time. It’s much like the butterfly effect: One small step every day will eventually lead to a huge change and build compounding effects on your life.
Embody the 7 habits of effective people
In his book, Stephen R. Covey goes through the 7 most important habits that highly effective people embody every day. It’s a powerful book, and if you start to implement the 7 habits that he describes in this book, you will start to see results.
I currently read his book, and it’s life changing, I can tell you. If you start to implement these habits into your life, you can slowly start to see a snowball effect. People often misjudge the importance of time when they want to get results. They want it now! You’re smarter than that, so you realize that to build a habit you need to embody it perfectly before it starts to kick in and give you the results you want.
My tip to you though, if you want to become more effective is to implement one habit at a time, so that you can really embody it and feel it working before you start with the next one. Otherwise you could get a feeling of overload and it might lead you to not be able to accomplish the goals you’ve set up for yourself.
So, what are the 7 habits of success?
To summarize it briefly, they are:
- Be Proactive
- Start with the end in mind
- Do the most important things first
- Think win-win
- Try to understand, then to be understood
- Create synergy
- Sharpen the saw
In his book The 7 habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey explains the habits in depths. I highly recommend this book for futrher reading.
The first thing you need to do is to recognize that you pay the full responsibility for your own life. This is a hard pill to swallow for most of us. But this is crucial if you want to be highly effective. Only then you can start to take proactive action and set a whole new mindset for yourself. You will also start to feel more in control when you proactively start to plan events rather than react to things. You will start to make things happen rather that let the things happen to you.
Start with the end in mind
When you set a strong goal you will see what it is you’re aiming for, and you can start to align all your actions in accordance to how well they take you to the goals you have set.
Do the most important things first
Do you also have a never-ending, unprioritized to-do list? One way to prioritize your tasks is to use the Eisenhower Method to decide the importance/urgency of a task, if it needs to be done immediately, if it can be delegated or if it can wait.
Or use the 4 D’s: “DO”, “DEFER”, “DELEGATE” or “DELETE”.
Another way that I have found to be an effective way to to eat the frog (or frogs!) first thing in the morning is to set up a daily routine of the Big Three. I have written a blog post about it here.
Stephen R. Covey covers the 4 types of decision makers:
With a win-win mindset you don’t fall into the trap of thinking limiting thoughts about yourself. An even better approach is to think win-win-win! So what’s the extra win for? It’s for the whole system to benefit from your decision. I win, you win and the system as a whole wins.
Try to understand, then to be understood
Many of us try hard to be understood. If only everybody else would just listen and shut up, we wouldn’t have a problem, right? Wrong. Go for understanding others over being understood. This way you can learn so much about other’s and their behaviors.
Think of possible synergies and compounding effects over time before you make a decision. Stephen R. Coveys suggests that you go out in nature to study the tremendous synergies and compounding effects that are built into the system so to speak.
Sharpen the saw
Strive to be a life long learner. Learn something every day. Actualize your dreams, life purpose and your best self. Take action on the previous 6 habits every day. Be at the cutting edge of your field.